It can be hard to keep up all that sugar and spice in your relationship. We get busy with jobs and kids and endless to-do lists, but according to experts, you get what you give when it comes to your relationship.
Being kind and loving on a regular basis is one of the most important components of a healthy relationship, says Jacqueline Olds, M.D., an associate professor of clinical psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and co-author of Marriage In Motion: The Natural Ebb And Flow Of Lasting Relationships.
“You want to be practicing the art of being loving rather than always waiting to see if the other person is being loving enough,” says Olds.
It’s being loving yourself rather than expecting it from your partner that makes a relationship feel more robust. Love is a practice, and to keep it as a part of your relationship, you have to be participating in that practice.
