Leaning the wrong way?

Many of the people I socialize with in "real life" have a biological sciences background. That being said, a relatively deep understanding of ncRNA does not give you any better sense of behavior genetics than the person off the street. And of course when you have a small child conversation often goes in the direction of how you want to raise the child so as to maximize their outcomes. Setting aside the particular normative valence of those outcomes, I am always struck by the power people think parents have over their child's life path. This is not to say parents don't have power. There are many young people who have college degrees because of parental expectations. Or, perhaps more precisely the social expectations which the parents set in motion by selecting the milieu of one's children. Yet so many times I've been in a conversation where the phrase "I lean toward nurture" has come up. These are not dogmatic "blank slate" individuals. Rather, they are simply falling back upon the null or default of our age.